October 26, 2025
I’ve discovered that, for my generation at least and perhaps for the shoulder generations to GenX, there are two types of women: those who play pickleball and those who play mah jongg. And they have much more in common than you think.
September 21, 2025
I bought a new car back in April, a Chevy Equinox EV. I don’t buy new cars very often, so I was pretty excited. It’s also our first EV, and the thing is so tricked out it’s like driving the Enterprise from Star Trek. (One of the new ones like D or E, not the original NCC-1701 with no letter.) (Yeah. I know my Trek.) I researched like crazy and we test drove several different EVs and a hybrid before we ordered, and I felt solid about my choice.
March 9, 2025
Ross Gay, one of my favorite poets/essayists, said that writing is a version of pointing at things. “Writing stuff I notice helps me, I think. It’s a version of pointing, writing is. Pointing and thinking, to be more precise. Preciser still: wondering!”
February 6, 2025
I ran to the grocery store the other day—my old store, not ALDI—to pick up just a few things that ALDI doesn’t carry. I grabbed one of the wee carts and start blasting around the perimeter, as I do. The one thing I really miss about this particular store is the music. I don’t even register what ALDI plays, if anything. The HVAC unit in there is so obnoxiously loud that the Pride of Troy could be blasting away in the meat section and we wouldn’t hear it. But the fancy store…they play good music.
December 2, 2024
Two years ago, after listening to a podcast I love, I sat down with a dear friend to create our “23 in ‘23” lists. Twenty-three things we each wanted to accomplish in 2023. We did this in January of ‘23 so we were actually working with a little less than a year, but it was ok. The podcast hosts encourage listeners to include some stretch goals, of course, but also save room for the easily attainable. That way one doesn’t get discouraged as the year goes on.
October 13, 2024
People. I know I’m late to the party, but I should get credit for finally arriving, right?
October 6, 2024
Warning: this post is sweary. Given the topic, I had no choice. Forgive me. If you don’t like expletives, you are dismissed.
September 29, 2024
My deep contemplation of letting go began in earnest in late 2019 when I signed up for an online decluttering class and, over the course of the next year, excavated my home to dismiss a bunch of crap that was simply weighing us down. Releasing physical objects is perhaps the easiest kind of letting go.
September 23, 2024
After several weeks of family members, friends, and colleagues approaching me cautiously with wide eyes and gentle demeanors, grasping me softly by the arm, leaning in, and whispering, “How are you doing? Are you okay?” I think it’s time to come clean.
February 7, 2024
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